Relationship coaching in Vancouver · Online in English and French
The same fight. The same silence. The same pattern, however hard you try.
You’ve read the books. Maybe you’ve done years of therapy. You can name your pattern, and it still takes over the moment things get tense. I know that place well, because I lived there too. I’m Eric, and for 13 years I’ve worked where those patterns actually live: in the body.
“For the first time, I feel calm in love instead of anxious about losing it.”
How Your Body Learns to Feel Safe in Love
Why your body reacts before you can think, and what helps it settle.
How I can help
What brings you here?
Which of these feels closest to what you’re experiencing? Each page explains what is happening underneath and how we would work on it together.
If you’ve ever thought “I should be past this by now,” this work was made for you.
Going through a breakup or divorce? Start here
Why the pattern keeps coming back
I spent more than twenty years in therapy before anyone pointed me toward the place my patterns were actually stored. I could describe my attachment style in detail, and still my chest would tighten and my words would disappear the moment a partner pulled away. The reaction was never a lack of effort or insight. It was my nervous system doing exactly what it had learned to do. Understanding why I reacted wasn’t the same as knowing how to respond differently.
Understanding happens in the mind. The reaction starts in the body, a split second before the mind can catch up. So you don’t need to try harder. The work needs to happen where the pattern lives.
You’re not in a relationship with your partner. You’re in a relationship with your nervous system’s story about your partner.
If this is what happens in you, tell me about it. The Clarity Session is free, lasts 45 to 60 minutes, and happens online.
Book a free Clarity SessionWhatever brought you here
The work follows three steps.
Rather than a general method, we work with your pattern, in your body, in the relationships you are living in right now. The fight, the silence and the shutdown look different on the surface. Underneath, it is the same body trying to stay safe.
01
Regulate
First you learn to catch the moment your body takes over, the tight chest, the urge to fix it or leave, and how to come back to yourself while the conversation is still happening.
02
Rewire
Then we go to where the reaction was learned, usually long before this relationship, so your body learns to stop treating your partner like the old danger.
03
Reconnect
And you practice what used to feel impossible: staying present, saying what is true for you, and letting yourself be loved without bracing for the loss.
In their words
They had tried everything too.
Sunny L.Anger, resentment and fear“I had seen multiple counselors and self help professionals, none of them gave me tools that Eric did to help me on a day to day basis.”
“My marriage was failing and I felt like I had no control. I have been able to begin communicating with my wife at a whole new level and we’re slowly rebuilding our marriage on a new, stronger foundation.”
Daniel B.“I was going through separation after a 20 year marriage and I didn’t like myself very much. Four years on, I still meet with Eric to remind myself of what I’m capable of.”
AshleyIf you recognized yourself in their words, let’s talk about yours.
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About me
Hi, I’m Eric.
Certified Relationship Coach and Nervous System Specialist · Vancouver
I’m not here to tell you how relationships should work. I’m here to help you understand what’s happening in yours.
I know these patterns from the inside. I was the one who pulled away, who kept the peace at my own expense, and it took many breakups and two divorces before I understood what my body had been protecting me from. That is what I bring to every session.
About me and my approach →Coaching
Private coaching, online, at your pace.
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Free Clarity Session · Online
Tell me what keeps happening.
I help individuals and couples break the patterns that keep repeating.
Whether it is the same fight, the silence after it, or the way you disappear in love, one honest conversation is enough to name the pattern underneath it and see what would help. It’s free, it takes 45 to 60 minutes, and it happens online.
Book your free Clarity SessionPrefer to message? WhatsApp or text me at +1 778 230 9525
Have questions first? Read the FAQ
- 1Tell me what brought you hereWhen you book, you choose the situation closest to yours, so I arrive already understanding it.
- 2We look beneath the surfaceTogether we name the pattern that keeps repeating and where it lives in your body.
- 3You leave with a clear next stepWhether that is working with me or not.