Eric Bensoussan
When Love Feels Unsafe and Disconnected
Sometimes it shows up as anxiety, overthinking, or pulling away. Sometimes as arguments, silence, or walking on eggshells.
i help individuals & couples rewire survival patterns into safety, calm, and connection, so love can feel authentic, secure, and deeply connected.
You People-Please Until You’re Exhausted
- You say yes when you mean no.
- You sacrifice your needs to avoid conflict.
- You feel resentful but can’t speak up.
- You apologize for things that aren’t your fault.
- You shrink yourself to keep others comfortable.
“Why can’t I just be myself?”
You Overthink Every Interaction
- You replay conversations for hours.
- You analyze every text message.
- You assume the worst about their intentions.
- You need constant reassurance that everything is okay.
- You struggle to trust what you feel without second-guessing it.
“Why can’t I just be myself?”
You Perform Instead of Connect
- You wear masks to be “acceptable.”
- You give endlessly hoping to earn love.
- You feel lonely even when you’re together.
- You say what you think they want to hear instead of what’s true.
- You worry that being fully seen will make you unlovable.
“Why can’t I just be myself?”
What’s really happening isn’t a lack of effort, it’s your nervous system trying to protect you.
Hi, I am Eric
My passion for this work was born from my own healing journey. Through that process, I discovered how to rewire the nervous system, the missing piece that no one was talking about, and the reason so many people stay stuck no matter how much inner work they’ve done.
Over the past 13 years, I’ve guided hundreds of individuals and couples to release emotional pain, restore safety in their bodies, and create relationships that feel grounded, healthy, and real.
REAL CONNECTION CAN’T EXIST WITHOUT SAFETY. WHEN THE NERVOUS SYSTEM CALMS, LOVE FINALLY FEELS POSSIBLE
How it Works?
FROM CHAOS TO CONNECTION: MY 3-STEP PROCESS
Most people don’t realize how much their body drives their relationships.
You can read every book, learn every communication tip, and still end up in the same fights, because in those heated moments, your nervous system takes the lead.
This is where our work begins. I help you slow down enough to understand what’s happening beneath the surface, so you can shift from reacting to reconnecting.
It’s not about saying the perfect thing, it’s about creating safety inside your body so real connection becomes possible again.
REGULATE
Calm Your Nervous System
When you’re triggered, your body takes over before your mind can catch up.
Your chest tightens, your breath shortens, you freeze or want to run. You start saying things you don’t mean or shut down completely.
In those moments, you don’t need more communication tools, you need to find your way back to safety. I’ll teach you how to recognize when your nervous system is in survival mode and how to use your body to come back to calm.
Grounding practices, awareness, and somatic tools will help you return to the present moment, so you can think clearly, speak honestly, and stay connected, even when things get hard.
Rewire
Transform the Old Patterns
Once you know how to regulate, we go deeper.
Because underneath every reaction lives an old pattern, a way your body learned to stay safe when love once felt unpredictable or painful.
Maybe you became the fixer, the pleaser, or the one who shuts down to keep the peace.
These patterns aren’t who you are. They’re who you had to become to feel safe.
Together, we’ll start to unwind them. You’ll learn how to catch yourself in those automatic moments and choose something new.
This is where healing happens, not in your head, but through new experiences of safety and connection that rewire your brain for love.
Reconnect
Create Safe Connection
When your body finally feels safe, connection starts to flow again.
You don’t have to perform, prove, or walk on eggshells to be loved.
You can breathe. You can feel. You can be yourself.
Here, you’ll practice what it means to stay open when you feel vulnerable, to speak your truth without fear of losing love, and to let closeness feel safe again.
This is where you begin to experience authentic intimacy, not through perfection but through presence.
It’s the journey of coming home to yourself and learning how to love without losing who you are.
Ready to feel safe in again?
If this speaks to you, it’s probably because a part of you already knows that love isn’t meant to feel like survival.
You’re ready to stop analyzing and start experiencing what safety and connection actually feel like in your body.
This is where we begin, one honest conversation to bring awareness, calm, and direction back into your relationship with yourself or your partner.
You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to take the next step.
Schedule a free Relationship Clarity Breakthrough Session and take the first step toward emotional safety and connection.
- How to Co-Create Emotional Safety—Even in Imperfect Relationships
- How to Know If It’s Safe to Be Vulnerable in Your Relationship?
- How to Navigate Communication Breakdowns in Your Relationship
- You’re Going to Hurt Each Other. What Happens Next Matters Most.
- Stop Looking for Tips. Start Doing the Work
I offer a full range of experiences to support every stage of your journey — from understanding your patterns to rewiring them for good. Whether you choose my signature The Emotional Reset Code™ program, 1:1 coaching, or bite-sized trainings, you’ll find the tools to build the love you long for.
1:1 Coaching – For Individuals or Couples
This is the most personalized way to work with me and experience deep transformation. Together, we’ll uncover and shift the patterns keeping you stuck, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild your capacity for trust, intimacy, and safety so your relationships stop feeling like survival and start feeling like home.
The Emotional Reset Code™
“My signature 6-week live program designed to create a lasting shift from survival mode to emotional safety. In this guided experience, you’ll uncover the root of your repeating patterns, learn to regulate your nervous system in real time, and rewire your emotional responses — so you can build relationships that feel calm, connected, and sustainable.”
Healthy Boundaries: From People-Pleasing to Peace
This short audio course is your safe, guided journey back to self-respect. In just three ten-minute lessons, you’ll learn how to recognize when your boundaries are being crossed, release guilt and fear around saying no, and speak your truth with calm confidence. Through personal stories, somatic practices, and ready-to-use boundary scripts, you’ll discover that saying no isn’t selfish, it’s how you create safety, honesty, and real connection in your relationships. Take a breath, press play, and start choosing peace over people-pleasing.
What clients say:
Testimonials
Eric is an exceptional coach. I felt very lucky and blessed to have found him. I came across his page at a time when I was consumed by sadness, heartbroken from a relationship, when I had lost all sense of mental clarity. After only the first session, I immediately started to feel like myself again. Eric helped me reboot my mindset. He helped me to better understand the actions of others. In a sense, Eric helped lead me to acceptance and emotional freedom. I learned things from him that have stayed with me over the years. I still remember certain words he said to me that I still remind myself of in moments of need. I also share these impactful words with others. Eric is the easiest person to talk to, after just a few minutes you feel like you’re speaking to someone you’ve known your whole life. He is such a gentle soul, and he was put on this earth to connect with others on a deep and spiritual level. If you’re looking for a coach, look no further.
Eric is a great coach, highly skilled and extremely knowledgeable. He knows the right tools and resources to help. He is very personable and easy to talk to. I didn't feel judged or restricted in what I needed to say. He just listened and offered great advice. He draws on his own personal life experiences but does it in a way that is unbiased. His ability to add context and offer clear and sound feedback are also some key skills. I highly recommend Eric to anyone who is looking for expert coaching.
When I started working with Eric I was going through separation after a 20 year marriage and I didn't like myself very much. Working with Eric, I learned that it's OK to want to be happy in my relationships and that I have a lot to offer others. Eric gently reminds me of my strengths and how I need to take care of myself when building new relationships. Four years on, I still meet with Eric from time-to-time to remind myself of what I'm capable of.
Before working with Eric, I was stuck—repeating the same patterns and unsure of my next move. He helped me identify my blind spots, set clear goals, and stay accountable. It wasn’t just about relationships—it was about leveling up in every area of my life. Eric adapted to what I needed in real time, making sure I wasn’t just thinking about change but actually making it happen. Years later, his coaching still shapes how I approach challenges and growth.
Thanks to Eric, the former perspective I held of my life's circumstances has been turned upside down by awakening to a very different awareness and perspective on suffering, and has opened me up to new freedom. It has allowed me to refocus on the essentials and helped to identify my needs.
Eric provided a safe space where I could just be and feel. It was exactly what I needed. I have been able to move on with my life, not by burying the past but by processing my feelings about it in a healthy, productive way.
I left feeling like I have learnt something new that I can utilize in my dad to day life. He used tools such as visualization and other techniques that I still use on a daily basis to control my emotions and to help centre myself. Before I met Eric I had seen multiple counsellors and self help professionals, none of them gave me tools that Eric did to help me on a day to day basis. I had issues surrounding anger, resentment and fear and meeting with Eric better helped me to understand these issues and we were able to develop tools to overcome these issues. Eric is genuine in his approach and is was willing to work with me and my individual concerns and develop a plan that was geared toward my success. I recommend Eric to anyone seeking answers about personal development or wanting tools to deal with the daily issues life presents.
Eric helped me to understand and apply liberating perspectives through his direct and pragmatic speech. It is a genuine person who knows how to effortlessly establish a close and warm relationship with his clients. Through working with Eric I could finally understand how I position myself in a limiting way within a relationship and because of this I am pleased to say I have eradicated a formerly toxic behaviour.
Eric is such a wonderful person and an excellent coach. I really thank him for all the guidance and encouragement. He knew exactly where I needed to focus my attention and intentions. He was a great support. Thanks for making a difference in others life, dear Eric. Keep shining.
I don't usually write reviews but I feel the need to express my gratitude for Eric. I asked for guidance and he was so accurate and right about my situation. He provided guided advice and most of all helped me to feel a sense of peace in myself that I haven't felt. I am a different person today because of him. He is truly a wonderful and caring soul. Thank you Eric!
My coaching with Eric was absolutely great ! He guided me through my break up and give me new perspectives to understand myself and my relationships. He is a loving and caring person that makes you feel safe at any moment.. I learned so much about myself, and gain a great sense of confidence ! Thank you for being part of my journey.
Eric is a kind, generous, supportive and enlightened human being. It's always so refreshing to connect with him and receive his insights and wisdom especially on relationships. He is a beautiful example of an awakened man. Thank you so much for your guidance and support. I will be back!
I was impressed how Eric understood my challenges so well. He was spot on about where I am in my life and helped to find clarity on where would be my next steps. I gained confidence, and self-esteem in a way that I would never think possible. After being coached for 6 months, I am a different person, and I love who I became. This was a great rewarding discovery journey.
When I met Eric, I was hopeless, and couldn't see any positive future. Very quickly he helped me with different perspectives to recognize that I have trapped myself in a box. Now I feel in control of my life and I am able to make decisions with clarity. I am more confident and practice every day how to use my strengths. I am clear on how I communicate with others. I am responsible for my life and don't blame anyone anymore. The coaching with Eric was hugely transformative.
Eric is not only a great listener, but he is great at digging to get to the heart of the issue to find a solution. There are several issues that we worked on that I thought would take multiple sessions and a lot of work to get through, but Eric’s insight made such a difference in such a short amount of time. I am really glad that I found Eric and was able to work with him.
I started working with Eric at a point where my life was falling apart. My marriage was failing, I was unhappy with work and I felt like I had no control - my life was something that "happened" to me, rather than some I lived. Eric helped me to understand the thoughts, habits and beliefs that were behind all of these issues, and to find ways to work towards being the person I want to be and having the personal and professional relationships I want to have. The results in my life are very visible - I am becoming more assertive in all aspects of my life, I'm happier with my professional life and how I'm steering it to where I want it to be and, even more importantly, I have been able to begin communicating with my wife at a whole new level and we're slowly rebuilding our marriage on a new, stronger foundation.
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Rebuild trust, calm reactivity, and reconnect through emotional safety.
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