Relationship coaching in Vancouver · Online in English and French
The same fight. The same silence. The same pattern, however hard you try.
I help individuals and couples who can’t seem to break the patterns that keep repeating, even after years of searching for answers.
“For the first time, I feel calm in love instead of anxious about losing it.”
How I can help
What brings you here?
Choose the one that sounds most like you. Each page explains what is happening underneath and how we would work on it together.
Going through a breakup or divorce? Start here
Why the pattern keeps coming back
I spent more than twenty years in therapy before anyone pointed me toward the place my patterns were actually stored. I could describe my attachment style in detail, and still my chest would tighten and my words would disappear the moment a partner pulled away. The reaction was never a lack of effort or insight. It was my nervous system doing exactly what it had learned to do.
You’re not in a relationship with your partner. You’re in a relationship with your nervous system’s story about your partner.
Whatever brought you here
The work follows three steps.
The fight, the silence and the shutdown look different on the surface. Underneath, it is the same body trying to stay safe, and that is where we begin.
01
Regulate
Learn to recognize when your body has gone into survival mode, and how to bring it back to calm with simple grounding and somatic tools.
02
Rewire
Help your body unlearn the chasing, pleasing or withdrawing it once relied on, and build responses rooted in trust and choice.
03
Reconnect
Practice staying open, speaking your truth, and letting love feel safe enough to receive.
In their words
They came in with the same problem.
Daniel B.Saving a marriage“I started working with Eric at a point where my life was falling apart. My marriage was failing, I was unhappy with work and I felt like I had no control.”
“I have been able to begin communicating with my wife at a whole new level and we’re slowly rebuilding our marriage on a new, stronger foundation.”
“I had seen multiple counselors and self help professionals, none of them gave me tools that Eric did to help me on a day to day basis.”
Sunny L.“I was going through separation after a 20 year marriage and I didn’t like myself very much. Four years on, I still meet with Eric to remind myself of what I’m capable of.”
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Meet your guide
Hi, I’m Eric.
Certified Relationship Coach and Nervous System Specialist · Vancouver
For years I watched people do all the right work and still stay stuck. Through my own years of searching I found what was missing: the nervous system, and the reason patterns repeat no matter how much insight you have.
Over the past 13 years I have guided hundreds of individuals and couples to restore a sense of safety in their bodies and build relationships that feel grounded and real, online, in English and in French.
About me and my approach →Coaching
Private coaching, online, at your pace.
Couples CoachingFor partners who want to find their way back to each other.Explore →
Individual CoachingFor changing the pattern you bring into every relationship.Explore →
Divorce or Breakup CoachingFor when it has ended on paper but not yet in your body.Explore →
Family CoachingFor families ready to stop passing down what they inherited.Explore →
Free Clarity Session · Online
Tell me what keeps happening.
I help individuals and couples break the patterns that keep repeating.
Whether it is the same fight, the silence after it, or the way you disappear in love, one honest conversation is enough to name the pattern underneath it and see what would genuinely help.
Book your free Clarity Session- 1Tell me what brought you hereWhen you book, you choose the situation closest to yours, so I arrive already understanding it.
- 2We look beneath the surfaceTogether we name the pattern that keeps repeating and where it lives in your body.
- 3You leave with a clear next stepWhether that is working with me or not.
Not ready to book? Start here.
Whether you’re single, dating or in a long relationship, this guide shows you why the same patterns keep repeating and what your body needs to feel safe in love.