Every complaint is a longing waiting to be felt. Real repair begins when you stop arguing the story and start listening to what your body is trying to say. Most…
Part 2 of the “What Trauma Really Is”Healing Begins in the Body, Not the Mind Healing does not begin the moment you fully understand your past.It begins the moment you start…
We don’t always notice when safety leaves the room. We just adapt.There are moments in life that don’t look traumatic from the outside.You keep going to work. You keep showing…
Because true presence doesn’t happen in your mind — it lives in your body, where healing and real connection begin. When was the last time you felt truly present?Not pretending to be…
Why Insight Alone Isn’t Enough to Stop the Same Fights, Breakups, and Patterns I spent over twenty years in therapy and no one ever told me the one thing that would…
The Illusion of ControlAt some point in almost every relationship, we fall into the same quiet fantasy: if only our partner would change, we would finally feel better.We imagine a…
There’s a quiet ache I see in so many people:If only my partner did the work… if they were more present, more emotionally available—then I’d feel safe.And I get it.…
Most people don’t want to say this out loud, but I will:At some point, you’re going to hurt the person you love.And they’re going to hurt you, too.It won’t always…
Boundaries have become the buzzword of modern relationships.Every expert tells us: “Set your limits.” “Say no without guilt.” “Communicate your needs clearly.”It sounds simple. Yet most people who try to set boundaries end…
I’ve been reflecting on something that has shown up again and again—in my coaching work, in relationships, and in my own inner life.It’s the way we so often project what’s…